There are some household decisions that both you and your partner need to agree on, and buying a new mattress is one of them. Couples often find that one person cares more about their sleeping space than the other, and it is possible that your partner simply doesn’t want to make a big decision on a mattress right now. As frustrating as this may be, you don’t have to take their lack of interest lying down.
Instead, start using these strategies to convince them that it is time for an upgrade to your bedroom.
Pick the Right Time to Talk
Most discussions like this go better when both people are relaxed and ready to have a serious talk. Think about the time of day when your partner is the most open to communication. Do they tend to enjoy unwinding by talking to you in bed at night? If so, then this might be the place to start talking. On the other hand, someone who prefers to zone out before bedtime might handle this conversation better if you wait to talk in the morning.
Remind Them of How Old the Current One Is
If your current mattress is old, then you’ve already got your starting argument set. Mattresses typically last about seven to 10 years before they begin to show signs of wear. Poorly made mattresses might even begin to have problems much earlier. If just being old doesn’t help, then ask your partner to think about how many skin cells might have piled up in the bed over that time period.
Bring Up How Good You Both Slept in That Hotel
Did your desire for a new mattress arise after you slept like a baby on vacation? This is a common occurrence among people who sleep on bad mattresses at home. Remind your partner of how much better you both felt when you were sleeping on a high-end mattress. Then, look for an equally comfortable mattress that makes sleeping at home feel like you are in a high-end resort.
Mention the Benefits of Having a Bigger Mattress
You and your partner might still be sleeping on one of your older mattresses from back when you were single. Since many people start off with only full or queen-sized mattresses, it is possible that you’ve outgrown yours as a couple. Try mentioning that you might need to move up to a king-size mattress that allows you to stretch out at night. You can also sweeten the deal by mentioning that a bigger mattress leaves more room for snuggling.
Suggest Doing a Test Run
Sleeping on a quality mattress might speak volumes more than your words can say alone. Ask your partner to join you for a risk-free trial where they can see the benefits of sleeping on a comfortable mattress themselves. After all, mattresses change with time, and so can your partner. They may just discover that they’ve been sleeping poorly all along.
Sleeping on a bad mattress interferes with everything from your physical comfort to your ability to be productive the next day. Life is too short to let eight or more hours of each night be completely uncomfortable. Although this conversation might be a little awkward, it must be done. Being open about your discomfort and offering your partner an option helps them see that sleeping soundly enhances every part of your life together.