“Most people go through their whole lives, without ever really feeling that close with anyone.” This is one of the most profound quotes about the human connection from Sally Rooney’s Normal People. Do you feel you’re unable to develop or sustain meaningful relationships?
Familial, platonic, romantic- all personal relationships are so dynamic. The way you felt about your parents when you were younger is bound to evolve as you become an adult yourself. So how do you navigate and develop deeper connections?
While there is no manual that will magically resolve all your relationship problems, you can still practice certain things that will get you on the right track. Here’s how.
Be a Good Listener
People want to be heard. Just by being a good listener, you can make your loved ones feel supported. Try to understand what a person is trying to express and how they’re feeling.
People’s ideologies, coping mechanisms, perceptions, and morals will be different than yours. Instead of being judgemental and critical, try to be more empathetic.
Engage in Genuine Conversations
You should check in with your loved ones from time to time. But just a text saying ‘What’s up?’ is not adequate. Take out time to engage in genuine conversations. And for the love of God, please set aside your phone. Constantly checking your phone in the middle of a conversation is rude. Have a heart-to-heart without any distractions!
Heal From Past Traumas
The traumas of your past unsuccessful relations can make you wary of being vulnerable again. But how can you create meaningful relationships without letting your guard down?
If you find your previous experiences impacting your present, get in touch Meet Your Psychic to heal your past relationship traumas.
Communicate Your Feelings
Your girlfriend or best friend might be attuned with your feelings, but they are by no means mind readers. So stop expecting them to observe a slight mood change and magically know what’s going on in your mind. Making someone understand your emotions is a two-way street. You need to clearly express your feelings.
Honesty with Tact
Honesty is one of the main pillars of a successful relationship. But like Taylor Swift sings on her track All Too Well, “So casually cruel in the name of being honest”, don’t use the facade of honesty to say unkind things. There is always a tactful way to express, try using that.
Take a Break When Necessary
Quality time is crucial for building long-lasting relationships. But at times, taking a break is necessary as well. Do you find yourself ignoring other relationships and focusing just on one? It’s important to give time to all your relationships, including the relationship you have with yourself. All-consuming love sounds quite romantic in novels and movies, but it isn't a healthy choice in real life.
Use a Respectful Tone
Arguments are bound to happen in every relationship. While there is no way to avoid disagreements, you have control over how you resolve them. A screaming match doesn’t help anyone. A respectful and calm tone is always the best approach.
Don’t Depend on Occasions
There is no harm in showing extra love on commercialized holidays like Valentine’s Day or Mother’s Day. But why do you need an occasion to express your appreciation? Other days of the years are just as important to show care and affection.
Know When To Walk Away
No matter how much you’re willing to compromise, some relationships cannot be salvaged. Understand when a relationship has turned toxic and is negatively impacting your life. It’s not easy, but you should know when to walk away.
You’ll continue to discover new things about yourself and others at every stage of your life. We hope you find these tips helpful for developing positive and supportive personal relationships.