When I was growing up, I heard words like “queer,” “fag,” and the like with regard to gays and lesbians.
I heard them, but I didn’t listen.
Do you know what I mean? There are things that children hear growing up that they know deep in their hearts is wrong.
Around the internet this week, there has been a lot of talk about discrimination, intolerance and hatred towards the gay community. It seems that Kirk Cameron, among others, felt it necessary to speak out against the evils of homosexuality.
He said something to the effect that homosexuality was unnatural. He went on to say that gay marriage was detrimental to society.
Well…my personal opinion?
Firstly, the sexuality of others is none of his damn business.
Secondly, the last time I checked, I’ve never heard of anyone choosing to be gay. (Regardless of what some right-wing crazies may think)
I have gay friends and family members. In Miami, being gay doesn’t have the attached social stigma that it has in some other places. It’s still there, but it’s not as strong or as frightening as it is in other places in the United States, or the world. I’ve grown up with gay and lesbian classmates, coworkers, bosses, etc. I have very dear friends who are gay, and we’ve talked about this subject at length. While it may be frowned upon by some, the general census is that if you are in gay in Miami, you don’t have to fear for your life.
A family member of mine is gay and last year, he came to my home with his partner for a party. His partner, from an older generation that did not have as much of an open mind as my own, wanted to stay in the car during the party.
I was like, WHAT?! Seriously…it broke my heart that he felt that he needed to stay in his car because he was the gay boyfriend of my family member. I promptly told my family member to go get his ass in the house.
I had to explain to him that WE ARE NOT LIKE THAT.
Which led to a conversation with my family member about his sexuality. He commented that he wished he could be normal. He wished that he could be accepted by his family – because different parts of the family, from different areas of the country not as forward thinking as my own, are not as accepting, apparently. He told me that his own parent, while loving him dearly, told him time and time again that he was going to burn in hell for his sexual perversion. I let him know that the entire family didn’t share that sentiment – that as far as I was concerned, homosexuality was as normal as heterosexuality.
I’m going to get real here for a minute. I don’t normally like to talk about sex on this blog, because I try to keep it as family-friendly as possible. But let’s be honest; the things that gay men and women do when they are being intimate – straight people do them too.
When a man performs oral on a woman, I don’t see churches picketing their homes. They aren’t accused of defying nature and God and a moral code. Yet, when a woman does it to another woman, she’s going to burn in hell? That doesn’t make sense to me.
I don’t want to get graphic, but the intimate way that men are together – straight men do that to straight women too. We all know this. The pornography industry has made millions of dollars off showcasing this act.
I am not going to get into a religious discussion because while I am not religious, I once was very involved in the church and I’ve read the Bible. Yes, I read about Sodom and Gomorra. I know that Christians cling to this story as evidence that God doesn’t like gays – but you know what I remember most about that biblical story?
A father tried to throw his virgin daughters to rapists.
I have found nowhere in the new testament where it says that homosexuality is a sin. If someone claims to be a Christian, then they should be well aware that part of the Christian faith is to believe that the life and death of Jesus Christ – and the salvation you ask for when becoming a Christian – was a new covenant between God and man – and the teachings of Jesus were supposed to replace the rules and regulations of the previous religion. This is why it really irritates me to hear people say that God hates gays – I haven’t found that anywhere in the new testament, which Christians are supposed to use as a guideline for their faith.
Plain and simple, gay-bashing and intolerance makes me sick. If you personally feel that homosexuality is wrong, then that is your personal opinion, it is NOT FACT.
I see no difference between discrimination against gays and discrimination against Blacks, Hispanics, Asians, etc.
Hate is hate and it’s time that this nonsense be put to rest.