Yesterday was day 1 of Lifetime's 7 Days of Sex Challenge. We were supposed to follow the prompt: Anything Goes! Using one item from our survival kit, we were supposed to have fun with it and see what happened.
Okay, I am going to keep it real here and just be honest.
I had a crappy day. So did my husband.
Not only did hubs have a crappy day, he had a long day - his first 14 hour work day in years. While he was sitting at work doing some top secret military stuff, I was sitting in a Catholic church (that mostly spoke Spanish...and I don't speak Spanish) for two hours listening to directions for my future god-daughter's confirmation for this weekend.
Working 14 hour days and sitting in church for two hours...and getting home at 9:45 pm after being up since 5:30/6:00 am?!
That didn't exactly put us in the mood for romance.
All I wanted to snuggle with was my pillow.
So what happened?
I made the commitment to the 7 Days of Sex Challenge and I tried to keep in mind that this is exactly what the challenge is all about - making time for your partner even when you've had a crappy day, even when you're tired...even when you don't really want to.
The only thing we ended up doing with our survival kit last night was look through it and talk about our plans for the week - a date night, using bubble bath one night, ordering some wine from Wine.com...
So we shut the bedroom door at 10 pm and we carved out a few special moments for each other...
And it was wonderful.
Today I started thinking about how many times I have shrugged off my husband's advances because I was too tired or just not in the mood. What was I thinking?!
We went into this last night doing it because we felt a responsibility to do it because of the challenge. But we both agreed afterwards that we were happy we did - and we meant it.
I am curious, how often do you say yes even when you don't feel like it, and end up having a great time?
I have to remember to keep this lesson in mind in the future...
And I have to remember to order that wine!
If you haven't checked out Lifetime's 7 Days of Sex show yet, check it out! And if you are a bit adventurous like me...take the challenge for yourself!
I received a survival kit to use while I participate in Lifetime's 7 Days of Sex Challenge, but all opinions are my own!
Jenn
Kudos to ya'll. Hubs gets tired too from long work hours and often just wants to crash! We need to remember just to get it on even when we're both exhausted. We never regret it!
Megan
I need to stop ignoring my husband's advances too. I believe we will start tonight.
nicole
You know how easy it is for a man to get in the mood -and sometimes I just don't feel sexy...I think with us, if we just "give in" even if we're not really in the mood, it won't be long before we are. That is something I had to sort of figure out over time in our marriage. Now, (well if he were here I would totally be all for it) but when he's back...this is what I'll continue to do. Of course after being apart for two years, it may take a while for us to not be in the mood! LMAO!!!!
Marcie W.
I have really wanted to check out this show. You're so right, marriage is about making time for your partner every day, regardless. Good for you for following through!
Only1KristenL
I love that you're talking frankly about this, because sometimes it's easy to feel like you're the only woman that has this happen, but it happens to most all of us I think. I know I've felt the exact same way, and then afterwords feel amazing. I think there are going to get a lot of "closed bedroom doors" tonight thanks to you!
Kathleen
I know the hardest part is creating the time together when you are both dead tired. I admire you for taking this challenge!
Laurie
We are sort of doing this very thing. It is so hard to find that intimate time with one another.
Tricia Nightowlmama
dittos sometimes that is so true
Donna
It's harder when you have a child at home, but we do manage to find the time. And, I generally say "yes", even if I don't initially feel in the mood. 99% of the time I'm glad I did. 🙂
Anne - Mommy Has to Work
I'm never in the mood!! lol Maybe I need better romance novels!
Rachel
This, honestly, tends to be me too. (can't believe I typed that) But I made it a "personal" goal this year to change that and to be more affectionate and there for my husband; it's good for our relationship ... not "just" him, ;).
Stephanie
Okay here we are, day one of Lifetime?s 7 Days of Sex Challenge. Honestly if it weren?t for this challenge we would not have done anything but sleep. It has been a long week. I had a week full of DR appointments and was in the hospital for slightly high blood pressure so they wanted to do non-stress test on the baby and I. Thankfully everything turned out okay and we were sent on our way. Still it was an exhausting week to say the least. This challenge encourages a week-long timeframe to really try and revitalize and rejuvenate your relationship and I think that it is a great idea for couples, not only ones having issues.
Alison
I'm the type that will say no when I'm tired but when I don't want too. But I did give him some loving right before Brandcation and it was amazing. And he really appreciated it. Even though I didn't want to do it, I felt like it brought us together. Maybe even made him miss me more while I was gone. 😉