I posted this graphic on my Facebook fan page the other day...
I received a comment from a reader saying that it was insulting to some - and once she told me WHY she was unhappy?
I felt like a complete a**hole. Considering what she had been through, I could see why it wasn't as easy as changing something...
It's not always that simple to make yourself feel happy, is it?
You can't just wake up and say to yourself, "I choose to be happy today."
Or can you?
This is something that I think about quite a bit, and has helped me tremendously in my own life. I like the idea of being able to make yourself feel happy, and I think that it is possible...
I know that there are circumstances under which some literally have no choice in whether or not they are happy - clinical depression being the first one that comes to mind. The best of intentions and the fluffiest of kittens can't compete with science.
But for the rest of us?
I really feel that no matter what has happened, what crappy hand we've been dealt in life, we can find ways to make ourselves happier - even if it is just a tiny bit happier.
Find something, anything that makes you feel good and do it.
When my grandmother died in 2010, my mother had a really hard time because she was so close to my grandma - they saw each other almost every day. They were best friends. She was incredibly depressed and she grieved, but she tried to find things to make her feel better to cheer herself up.
Sometimes, finding happiness can be as simple as that - find a little thing that cheers you up!
Will it make your entire life turn around for the better? Will it solve all of your problems?
Of course not.
But if one simple act can bring happiness into your heart for even a moment, why not do it?
Find things that you enjoy, like spending time outdoors, watching funny movies, or baking a decadent dessert. Spend an hour on the phone with an old friend or go out and meet a friend for a cocktail. Just lay in bed and read a book. Pet your cat or dog. Listen to uplifting music.
Find something - anything - that makes you feel good. It may not change your life, but it can help change your day.
SMILE. LAUGH. SMILE SOME MORE.
If you don’t feel like smiling because of the way that your teeth look, change them. These Invisalign before and after pictures show just what a difference modern cosmetic dentistry can make. Never hide your teeth – it can harm the way that you feel. Activating the smiling muscles around your mouth utterly changes how your mind functions.
Did you know:
- Psychologists have found that you can instantly feel happier by forcing yourself to smile!
- Your body is more relaxed when you smile, which contributes to good health and a stronger immune system.
- In a study conducted in Sweden, people had difficulty frowning when they looked at other subjects who were smiling!
- Your body immediately releases endorphin when you smile, even when you force it. This sudden change in mood will help you feel better and release stress.
- Making yourself happy could be as simple as choosing an activity that makes you smile, even if it involves alcohol or other intoxicants in moderation.