I came across a blog this morning that mentioned Stay At Home Daughters…at first, I chuckled. Of course daughters stay at home…until they grow up, right?
After Googling for a few minutes – can I just say that I love the Google app for my ipad? – I found that Stay At Home Daughters is actually a movement. It seems it came about as part of the Quiverfull movement – you know that thing that the famous family with all the kiddos, The Duggars, are a part of. *I want to note that the Duggars do not participate in the Stay at Home Daughters Movement, but that they are supporters of the Quiverfull movement, which is different*
I will stop here and say that the rant part of this post is about to begin.
Before I start the rant, please, let me be clear – I do not dislike religion. I dislike people that use religion in negative ways. Religion is a beautiful thing that can change lives and provide hope and love for people…what I dislike about religion is when it is used to oppress people, when it is used to promote a hateful propaganda – like the subjugation of women.
And with that, let the rant begin.
In a nutshell, the Stay At Home Daughters movement is this:
Instead of growing up, going to college and/or getting a job and living what most would consider to be a normal life, these young women are taught to stay at home, under the authority of their fathers, until their fathers choose a husband for them. They are taught, under the Christian Patriarchy Movement, to forsake education and careers in favor of staying home with their mothers, learning to cook, clean and sew, because those things are seen as Godly.
What. The. *!#%.
And that’s all they ever do. Period. Until their fathers choose a husband for them, and then they get married, and raise their own children in the same manner.
Don’t get me wrong; I absolutely love being married, and I think that marriage and family are wonderful, fulfilling things. But when I hear that girls are forbidden from going to school or getting jobs, and that their entire lives revolve around their fathers – because their fathers are their spiritual leaders – it makes me sick inside. This is where I see religion being used against women, as it has since the beginning of time.
I don’t see any movements where boys are taught that education and career are un-Godly. It seems that they are being encouraged to go out into the world and to pursue successful careers – I mean, their wives and however many daughters are at home, knitting and candle-making, so they have to earn a sizable income.
Doug Phillips, the San Antonio minister who is the founder of Christian Patriarchy organization, Vision Forum, is quoted as saying,
“Daughters aren’t to be independent. They’re not to act outside the scope of their father. As long as they’re under the authority of their fathers, fathers have the ability to nullify or not the oaths and the vows.”
It’s 2011, people. In case these people haven’t noticed, women are equal to men.