Firstly, let me say that if you are under 18, you shouldn’t be reading this post. This message is for adults in a monogamous relationship – who are interested in helping a troubled relationship, or strengthening a trouble-free one.
Okay, now that that’s out of the way!
I just learned about the new television show on the Lifetime channel, 7 Days of Sex. Now, I’ve heard of this challenge before – it has been on the news, talked about in churches and been referenced on TV. Lifetime decided to make a reality series about it, and it airs tomorrow night at 10 pm est (after the kiddos have gone to bed, of course!).
Each week, Lifetime’s brand new reality show will present two couples whose marriages are struggling and see what happens when they take the 7 Days of Sex Challenge. They will commit to 7 straight days of being intimate – oh okay, having sex – each night (or day, I’m curious to see how they approach it!) to see what kind of impact it has on their relationship. Will it help? Will it make them closer?
I love the idea behind the Lifetime series – I’m all about promoting intimacy in relationships. I think the challenge is a beautiful idea and I look forward to seeing what happens with the couples in each episode!
I think it’s such a great idea that I am taking the 7 Days of Sex Challenge myself.
Yup. That’s right. And my husband is pretty excited about that.
My marriage isn’t in shambles, don’t worry about that. But let’s face it, we’ve been married for almost 11 years and my husband travels for work a lot. Unfortunately, I have found that it is just too easy to fall into the habit of not making time for each other…either one of us is too tired by the time we go to bed, or too lazy to make the effort, or we are just so used to being apart because of his business trips that we’ve fallen out of the habit. I think that this happens to a lot of couples, whether you’ve been together for a year or 11 years.
What happens when you stop having sex? I think we all know the answer to that question: you drift apart. And the longer you go without being intimate, the farther you drift, until one day you feel uncomfortable even trying to go back to where you began. I’ve seen this happen and I don’t want it to happen to me.
So, for the next week, I am going to be writing about my Lifetime’s 7 Days of Sex Challenge – but don’t worry, I won’t be getting raunchy! I don’t think that it’s the act itself that is what is so important about this challenge. It’s what happens before and after the sex that matters so much and says so much about the state of your relationship.
It’s all of those little things that lead up to having sex – it’s how you relate to your partner, how you interpret their signals, how you communicate your wants and desires. It’s about your level of comfort and your ability to be open and honest. It’s how you feel afterward; comfortable and content, loved and cherished.
So, over the next 7 days, my husband and I are going to be following the very same prompts that the couples in Lifetime’s 7 Days of Sex Challenge are following. And I’ll be reporting back to you what we discover about ourselves and our relationship each day as we follow each prompt.
I would love to have you join me in this challenge.
Come on, it’ll be fun!
* I received a Survival Kit to use throughout my participation in this challenge. All opinions are my own! Stay tuned, because I will be hosting a fun romance-themed giveaway shortly!