I’ve seen a lot of articles recently talking about the negative association between women and “mommy bloggers” or “mom bloggers.” These articles have been all over the Internet and I’ve seen so many arguments for, against and the “I don’t care” attitude that I began to ponder…am I a Mommy Blogger?
What exactly is a “Mommy Blogger” anyway?
The general consensus is that any mother that blogs about her children is considered by some in the Public Relations world to be a “Mommy Blogger.” A lot of bloggers don’t like that.
Why? One argument I saw was based on the fact that it’s derogatory to call someone “Mommy” unless that person is in fact, your mommy. When I first started hearing this term, I thought nothing of it. I live in Miami. We have a very heavy Spanish population. “Mami” is a term of endearment. Strangers in the supermarket call me Mami. My daughter’s teachers have called her Mami. It’s just how we roll.
The more involved I became in the blogging community, the more I began to understand why bloggers dislike this term so much.
It can be seen as condescending. Bloggers – no matter what the subject – want a little respect. Sure, we might not be on the same level of journalists as newspaper and magazine writers, but we are still writers. Women want to know why we have to be categorized as Mommy Bloggers the second we post a pic of our baby in their first Halloween costume. Why can’t we just be called “bloggers?”
Do men who have children become automatically labeled as Daddy Bloggers the second they mention their son’s football game on their blog? NO.
And THAT is where the problem lies.
By calling someone a “mommy blogger”, it seems to imply that the blogger isn’t serious about anything other than being a mommy. Personally, I have never seen a blog that revolves solely around a blogger’s children – it’s usually a mix of everything going on in their lives.
When I talk to PR companies, I tell them that I am a general lifestyle blogger with a focus on travel. Travel is my THING. Duh, what’s my tag line? Rebel Chick’s Journey. I’ve worked hard to focus on travel, and I’ve written a ton about it. If you compare my posts about my daughter to my posts about travel, you’ll find the majority are travel related. So am I considered a mommy blogger? Am I considered a mom blogger? For some reason, the term “mom blogger” doesn’t bother me as much as “mommy” does…maybe it’s because my daughter is older and doesn’t call me “mommy” anymore – so why should anyone else?
My daughter is almost 14, and while she is the biggest part of my life, I don’t blog specifically about her very often. But as a mother – my entire life revolves around her. She sneaks into my blog in such subtle ways that I don’t even notice. Why? Because I am a mom. It’s what moms do, we love our kids and brag about them to anyone who will listen. When I write about my travels, part of that includes making arrangements for her while I am gone, or what trips we are taking together as a family. She’s the biggest part of my life, so it’s only natural that she be mentioned here and there, even if a post isn’t about her.
Does that make me a “mommy blogger” – I don’t know. It makes me a blogger who loves her kid. If you want to call me a “mom blogger” then that’s okay, but please pay enough attention to my blog to see that I write about everything that happens in my life, not just something funny that my daughter says.
End of story.